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The bouncers of your mind

9/27/2017

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Yesterday I described a human brain as being a nightclub. Your thoughts, knowledges, feelings and facts are the patrons. Your judgement is the bouncers. As you grow and change, The bouncers soon learn to filter between vetted knowledge, harmless thoughts, and harmful thoughts.
And the bouncers make a growing list of Ideas non grata, facts that have already been disproven one way or another.
Over time, your bouncers figure out which ideas you'll let pass, which you'll stop and go, "wait, the fuck?" and which ideas you'll tell to fuck off and go away.
That said, not all security teams are alike. Depending on how the owner (Your consciousness) chooses to use them. Some get into the habit of letting the "regulars" in even if they're vetted on other ideas instead of their own merits. If you value time over discretion, your bouncers may be trained to turn away an entire group without asking even if there's only one Idea non grata in the pack. Even the best may be susceptible to bribery (letting in bad habits, which cause just enough trouble to not be kicked out, or get kicked out and let back in later).
Furthermore, I took a look at how difficult it is to get an unproven idea past the bouncers if they're rolling with ideas non grata. Most likely scenario is the entire pack gets told to fuck off.
But if the bouncers are trained to vet, and have the time (this is important! Vetting, fact-checking, and confirming takes time. Is the eventual idea even worth this time and effort? Maaaaaybe.), then they can pick apart the Ideas Non Grata and let in just the unproven and debatable.
But that idea is always going to have to go through that vetting whenever it goes rolling with the Ideas Non Grata.
All THAT said, today I want to look at the other side of it:
Getting your ideas past someone else's bouncers.
A big key to this is realizing that your ideas almost always run in packs.
The bouncers start feeling froggy when the wrong ideas do the talking.
The ideas that are already vetted in your club may or may not in someone else's club, depending on who you're talking to. If you're in the company of like-minded individuals, then some ideas may well freely pass in and out of your various clubs unopposed.
But if you're speaking to someone not of a like mind, then those ideas are going to different clubs, and need to be vetted, assuming they're not already declared Ideas non grata.
If you're going to get an idea into someone else's club, they need to be accompanied by an idea that can help vet them (that is, do the talking.)
Yesterday I used the example of how a BLM meme got stopped by my own bouncers, and the fates of the various ideas.
Today I wanna go the opposite direction.
I am a product of gun culture. I'm a sixth-generation shooter and a third-generation pistol carrier (and that's just what I know off the top of my head without bugging my mom for genealogical trivia). I started getting ammo in my Christmas stocking starting at age ten. Shooting a gun was as commonplace as making a pot of tea and changing a tire: you learned the mechanics, learned the hazards, and did it as needed or circumstances allowed. Over the years, I made it my profession, and kept a lot of the hows and whys on hand.
Over the last two years, I've had the occasional request for real-life (as opposed to theatrical or cinematic) firearms training.
Not a one of those requests has come from a hetero white guy.
So let's take one of the people I'm talking to. They're interested, but there's an idea they've had vetted for a long time that I kicked out long ago.
That idea is Police in the US can shoot unarmed black men with impunity. (PITUSCSUBMWI, for short)
Before you go off on a tangent, remember, whether said fact is correct or not DOES NOT MATTER.
Can I refute this fact?
Hell fuck yes I can. I can poke so many holes in that idea, by the time I'm done it would look like a fishnet body stocking.
But, again, does not matter.
Because remember, PITUSCSUBMWI already has VIP access to the other person's club. They're a regular. And every time a police shooting comes on the news, PITUSCSUBMWI buys a round of shots of Fear. Maybe chasing it with some Resentment. With another round mixed with Helpelessness sometimes.
And none of the facts I'd use to refute it would make it in the door. They'd get into a screaming match with PITUSCSUBMWI and get kicked out. Every last damn one of them. Assuming they even make it past the bouncers, which is unlikely, given how popular PITUSCSUBMWI is in a lot of places.
No, the only way those ideas are getting in the other person's club is if they roll with a thought of mine like That has to fucking suck, and be fucking heartbreaking. (THTFSABFH, for short).
If THTFSABFH does the talking, then maybe he can say, "I'll try and make sure my boys only speak when spoken to. Buy you a round of Sympathy?"
Maybe it works, maybe it don't. But at the moment, that's the only way those facts are getting into the other person's club.
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The nightclub of your mind

9/26/2017

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n certain circumstances, facts don't mean shit.
Because unless it's been previously vetted, your brain can't tell if a fact is correct or not on sight.
But your brain instantly knows what pisses it off.
Think of your brain as a nightclub. Your knowledges, facts, and ideas are the patrons. Eventually, you develop a staff of bouncers (judgement, bullshit meter, call it what you will). As you grow and learn, these bouncers learn what Ideas are ok ("Human beings can't fly"), what Ideas are harmless ("wouldn't it be cool if we could fly?") and which Ideas will fuck it up for everyone ("I'm Peter Pan, motherfuckers! Where's a balcony? I need a good leaping spot!").
As time goes on, you accumulate not only regular Facts who have been vetted time and again, and who have friend networks that vouch for them. You also accumulate ideas non grata, ideas that showed their ass, got kicked out, and aren't allowed in your head.
When one of these ideas shows up, it sets off the emotion alarm. Brain chemicals kick on a big "fuck no!" sign. Your more violent and righteous ideas start yelling.
Now, if you've trained your bouncers to investigate before attacking, the least that happens is that you stop and see what this asshole idea is up to, and what other ideas they're with.
But often you don't have that kind of time or inclination, so you just batten down the hatches and tell the entire group to fuck off, all because they're hanging with the asshole ideas, making them asshole ideas by affiliation.
Example,
My brain is full of gun nuttage and use-of-force laws, with networks of affiliated facts going several layers down.
A few weeks ago, one of the latest memes had a list of hashtagged names of unarmed black men killed by police in America with "= No Conviction" next to each name.
That band of Ideas got stopped at the door to the club of my brain. Because just the facts near the door and the ones hanging out near that door know that two of the names on that list were legitimately killed according to every known use of force law currently in effect.
My bouncers turned those two lines away right at the door. I had neither the time nor inclination to wake up the nuances I know were in effect. So the rest of the names were turned away too.
Sitting in the back behind all of those ideas was, "systemic racism in American legal and justice system."
And my bouncers looked at it and said, "you realize we're going to go through this every time you go out with those lying assholes, right?"
And it went, "yeah, yeah, they're a lot more useful with other crowds, though."
Which is true.
What happens if that idea went to, say, a sociologist's door? Someone who's expertise was broader but shallower? Who knew about more cases but less about the nuances of each individual case?
In that mind, systemic racism would roll deep with the entire pack of ideas behind them and the bouncers would never say a word. Any ideas that would object wouldn't be up to vet or object, assuming they had ever visited that mind in the first place.
In which case, the first idea to refute or deny a member of systemic racism's crew would be in for their own step-by-step vetting to get into a new brain.
This happens with all sorts of ideas, in everybody's brain.
When Kapernick took a knee, a fuckload of people saw "systemic racism in the American Legal and Justice System" hanging out with "Make a conscious display during the national anthem."
And a LOT of people's brains clanged shut and said, "how dare you bring THAT asshole idea here!"
They still are.
The point I'm making is to take at least some time to let your bouncers vet the occasional idea, even if it runs with an asshole crowd.
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Something else on the mind...

9/20/2017

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The growing call for police to have better training in dealing with the mentally ill.
This is the most diplomatic way of putting it that I can make:
Unless you're a working therapist with a very heavy client calendar, the average metro cop dealt with more cases of mentally ill individuals before lunch on Monday than you will for the rest of the month.
Because "call the cops if they won't stop being my problem" is our go-to societal solution, they're the ones who get called in. Doesn't matter if it's a kid foaming at the mouth, throwing books and screaming about demons, a hobo taking a nap at the side door of your office building, a guy with no thumbs and three teeth begging for change for their next meth fix, or a lady stripping bare-ass in the middle of the airport before waving her vagina at the TSA agents and loudly propositioning anyone in earshot.
And day in and day out, they handle it as situations dictate, almost always getting the problem out of your hands and off into somewhere else.
And occasionally, tragedy strikes.
As I had to point out to someone the other day, when someone had a knife out and is going for your kidneys, nobody, least of all you, has the time or inclination to ask about their medical history. You either let them have you, or you stop them.
So yeah, I could be salty and ask where the fuck you've been since the Regan administration. Or ask how the fuck we'll pay for who exactly to administer such training, given how less than ubiquitous body cams still are.
Instead I'll point out that they've been dealing with the mentally ill a lot longer and a lot better than they ever get credit for, because out of sight and out of mind is all a part of the service.
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I've started to wonder...

9/20/2017

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...how many people actually know how to deescalate?
It's definitely not something we value.
It's just something we insist that other people do.
(A close cousin to being held accountable).
At least, for my generation and a bit younger (I'm an Oregon Trail).
Think about it, we revered Ferris Bueller, an unrepentant sociopath, as he went on to torment and exploit an entire city for his own amusement.
Our heroic icon is Deadpool. We laugh at his antics, and we scoff at poor, naive Colossus as he tries to get Wade to be more of a hero and less of a dickhole.
Face it, if you had to be around either in real life for any extended length of time, you'd hate Ferris and probably want to shoot Wade.
It also doesn't help that we've won no-win scenarios in our stories so often that the notion of accepting or allowing defeat is a foreign concept. If you actually lose the Kobayashi Maru, you're just not clever enough to beat it.
Which is a mindset that works so long as you never hit a situation that a third option isn't possible.
I saw this all the time when bouncing. My highly educated, tech sector clientele had a complete physical blue screen of death when I kicked them out. I not only was kicking them out, I had my hands on them, they couldn't stop me, and had no way to punish me for what they thought was my transgressions.
We want to think we have all the options. Not only that, we want to think that everyone has all the options.
But we don't deescalate, we either submit (let them be an asshole, not worth the trouble), or we appeal to authority (report to HR, call the cops)
The closest thing we have to deescalation is submission, and we chafe like fuck at having to do that. We insist we shouldn't have to. Like we've missed something in the cost/benefit analysis.
But when we appeal to authority, we de facto escalate.
Then we criticize authority for not deescalating?
I think that's a chunk of the reaction to police shootings (besides a bloodthirsty media and ignorance of violence outside of our entertainment narratives).
We want to think all the options are there, and they haven't run out.
And that ain't the case at all.
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Knife notes

9/19/2017

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Fun fact: I made knives. Mostly for film & theatrical purposes. Found out something interesting along the way.

Anything less than 10 inches long with a 5" blade, vanishes in the actor's hands and the audience never sees it. Even in a black box. The letter opener I made for No Exit was bigger than a steak knife at longhorn, and even then it was hard to see.
Now, the multitool I use? 4.5" handle, 3" knife blade. Blade's hard to see even inside Tueller drill distance.
Now, the ambulance chasing fuckweasel representing the family of the asshole who committed suicide by cop on the GT campus the other night is claiming the officer overreacted. The deceased was supposedly carrying a closed multitool.
Bullshit. If anything, the officer underreacted. He allowed the deceased to come within Tueller drill range while armed with a knife. The fact that the knife wasn't opened couldn't be determined by the officer at distance means shit. Because by the time they could get a positive ID, they already would've been in range of a lethal attack they couldn't stop.
It's the same principal that lets cops shoot you if you shove a hand into a pocket when told to keep your hand in place. They have NO obligation to let you shoot first, nor are they obligated to read your mind and discover you really have a gun in there. Said actions constitute a threat whether the FB armchair quarterbacks agree or not.

P.S.:
21' is an average.
I will neither confirm nor deny the existence of individuals who can do such a thing from twice that distance. Nor rumors of it being done in a relatively uncrowded ballroom.

P.P.S. : About a year back a German cop shot a machete-wielding guy in the leg before managing to arrest him. Never saw any followup on how much mobility the machete guy had. But I did remember headdesking with a thought of, "oh, peachy. Now every amateur hour dipshit out there has an exception that proves the rule to crow about."
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"Violence never solved anything" was always a lie.

9/17/2017

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Not only a lie, but a prohibition from formal education coming into play just as our art and culture elevated the anti-hero. We raised generations to think that heroes can wound people just enough to arrest them with a minimum of hurt. We raised them to not tell the difference between vengeance and justice. We raised them to think that gang beatings equal nothing but bruises. That stun setting phasers are just some STEM funding away. That lasting pain, damage, legal problems and civil penalties went away quietly when they weren't happening to obvious villains.
It's as cruel and stupid a movement as leaving the sexual education of generations up to abstinence-only textbooks, romcoms, and porn.
And we are so reaping what we fucking sowed there.
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