Pondered for a while the various roles we play in our lives.
We're all ourselves, obviously, but different relationships bring about different reactions. You don't treat your mom like your sibling, or your coworker like your customer.
And a great deal of interpersonal conflict comes with treating one sort of relationship like a different kind. We see it in all manner of things from "stop kissing the boss's ass" to "mind your place."
A lot of the more active incidents during my time working in security came from people who thought they could treat me like the waiter while I was on duty.
Bear in mind, this is NOT a case of my ego needing fulfillment, but a case of everyone involved performing the societal roles we chose to take on.
However, in the arts world I see a blurred line.
Specifically, that between coworker and audience member ("fan" is a subset).
Etiquette hasn't quite caught up to this, especially social media wise.
I can only speak from my own sense of decorum. But it boils down to, "don't treat a colleague like an audience member."
An expansion, I think, on "don't treat a coworker like a customer."
It's not that one is inherently greater or lesser, but they are different. And mixing them up denotes not paying attention, if not a lack of respect.
So, if I work on a project with someone and they add me, cool. That's a network contact. Fair enough.
However, the next direct contact needs to reinforce that.
If I do a project with someone, they add me, and the next contact I get from them is asking for a like, a view, or (Odin help me), some crowdfunding link?
Now they've approached me as a colleague, then treated me like an audience member.
And pissed me off in the process.
Maybe I'm a rare bird in this, but I don't think I'm particularly off-base.
And I'm starting to call people out about it.
Its amazing how people react when they put out a badly personalized request only to be met with a neutral, "why?"
So tell me, braintrust: do I have some kind of emotional quirk about this or am I being legit in my affrontery here?
We're all ourselves, obviously, but different relationships bring about different reactions. You don't treat your mom like your sibling, or your coworker like your customer.
And a great deal of interpersonal conflict comes with treating one sort of relationship like a different kind. We see it in all manner of things from "stop kissing the boss's ass" to "mind your place."
A lot of the more active incidents during my time working in security came from people who thought they could treat me like the waiter while I was on duty.
Bear in mind, this is NOT a case of my ego needing fulfillment, but a case of everyone involved performing the societal roles we chose to take on.
However, in the arts world I see a blurred line.
Specifically, that between coworker and audience member ("fan" is a subset).
Etiquette hasn't quite caught up to this, especially social media wise.
I can only speak from my own sense of decorum. But it boils down to, "don't treat a colleague like an audience member."
An expansion, I think, on "don't treat a coworker like a customer."
It's not that one is inherently greater or lesser, but they are different. And mixing them up denotes not paying attention, if not a lack of respect.
So, if I work on a project with someone and they add me, cool. That's a network contact. Fair enough.
However, the next direct contact needs to reinforce that.
If I do a project with someone, they add me, and the next contact I get from them is asking for a like, a view, or (Odin help me), some crowdfunding link?
Now they've approached me as a colleague, then treated me like an audience member.
And pissed me off in the process.
Maybe I'm a rare bird in this, but I don't think I'm particularly off-base.
And I'm starting to call people out about it.
Its amazing how people react when they put out a badly personalized request only to be met with a neutral, "why?"
So tell me, braintrust: do I have some kind of emotional quirk about this or am I being legit in my affrontery here?
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