We're all ourselves, obviously, but different relationships bring about different reactions. You don't treat your mom like your sibling, or your coworker like your customer.
And a great deal of interpersonal conflict comes with treating one sort of relationship like a different kind. We see it in all manner of things from "stop kissing the boss's ass" to "mind your place."
A lot of the more active incidents during my time working in security came from people who thought they could treat me like the waiter while I was on duty.
Bear in mind, this is NOT a case of my ego needing fulfillment, but a case of everyone involved performing the societal roles we chose to take on.
However, in the arts world I see a blurred line.
Specifically, that between coworker and audience member ("fan" is a subset).
Etiquette hasn't quite caught up to this, especially social media wise.
I can only speak from my own sense of decorum. But it boils down to, "don't treat a colleague like an audience member."
An expansion, I think, on "don't treat a coworker like a customer."
It's not that one is inherently greater or lesser, but they are different. And mixing them up denotes not paying attention, if not a lack of respect.
So, if I work on a project with someone and they add me, cool. That's a network contact. Fair enough.
However, the next direct contact needs to reinforce that.
If I do a project with someone, they add me, and the next contact I get from them is asking for a like, a view, or (Odin help me), some crowdfunding link?
Now they've approached me as a colleague, then treated me like an audience member.
And pissed me off in the process.
Maybe I'm a rare bird in this, but I don't think I'm particularly off-base.
And I'm starting to call people out about it.
Its amazing how people react when they put out a badly personalized request only to be met with a neutral, "why?"
So tell me, braintrust: do I have some kind of emotional quirk about this or am I being legit in my affrontery here?