I've spent the past few years setting my personal boundaries with emotional defense in depth in mind. A memory from a week ago reminded me how I'm rating acquaintanceships on the guillotine scale now. (Who'd drag you to the guillotine if their tribe demanded it? Who'd be in the crowd cheering them on? Who'd be in the crowd not looking you in the eye or saying anything? And who'd be smart enough to not show up that day?) Which is disheartening, for someone who's spent most of his life trying to get along with everybody, but keeps me honest.
Earlier I checked Twitter for the first time in ages. I never use it. I'm just there to protect my brand. But going through the old following list gave me a couple instances of "oh, honey, I dumped your ass years ago for a reason!"
You can't satisfy everyone, although trying to be good to everyone can make it feel like you've come close sometimes.
For a long time, I was the type that tried to be good to everyone. Wound up putting a lot of good energy after bad that way.
These days, I'm more satisfied being as good to people as I'm able, and letting people have an easy path if they choose to take it.
If not, well, that's what my personal boundaries are mined at intervals for.